Who?
Sarah
Where?
Cologne, Germany
What?
"Three compliments: First: Those are pretty earrings! They suit you very well. Also I think your make up is perfect*, it looks fantastic. Most importantly I think the shape of your face is very unique. I like it a lot, looks really really beautiful."
How did she react?
She listened carefully. Very calm, with a slight smile. When I was done she said: "That is very nice. Thank you!"
How did I feel?
Sarah was an advanced receiver. She did not escape, neither with words nor with her eyes. She stayed in contact. She was very present and radiated with warmth and playfulness. I admired her openness to the compliment, I'll be sure to learn from her reaction.
Initially she was the one who talked to me first, we met at my favorite Adana place (a good place for compliments! It's where I met Jay, too) and she asked if we knew each other because apparently I looked familiar. I said, "No, I don't think so...". I wondered if maybe she'd read about the project in a newspaper. That's how I started thinking about my challenge. And realized: I digged her earrings! And her mascara! Most of all, the shape of her face. While I ate I watched her. She seemed very likable, had a nice smile and a unique way of talking. I finished my dish and went up to her. I was glad I did because the complimenting went down smoothly and I got to experience her special vibe. What a gift! Thank you, Sarah.
*She was wearing plain Mascara on her upper lashes
Sarah
Where?
Cologne, Germany
What?
"Three compliments: First: Those are pretty earrings! They suit you very well. Also I think your make up is perfect*, it looks fantastic. Most importantly I think the shape of your face is very unique. I like it a lot, looks really really beautiful."
How did she react?
She listened carefully. Very calm, with a slight smile. When I was done she said: "That is very nice. Thank you!"
How did I feel?
Sarah was an advanced receiver. She did not escape, neither with words nor with her eyes. She stayed in contact. She was very present and radiated with warmth and playfulness. I admired her openness to the compliment, I'll be sure to learn from her reaction.
Initially she was the one who talked to me first, we met at my favorite Adana place (a good place for compliments! It's where I met Jay, too) and she asked if we knew each other because apparently I looked familiar. I said, "No, I don't think so...". I wondered if maybe she'd read about the project in a newspaper. That's how I started thinking about my challenge. And realized: I digged her earrings! And her mascara! Most of all, the shape of her face. While I ate I watched her. She seemed very likable, had a nice smile and a unique way of talking. I finished my dish and went up to her. I was glad I did because the complimenting went down smoothly and I got to experience her special vibe. What a gift! Thank you, Sarah.
*She was wearing plain Mascara on her upper lashes