Who?
The anonymous attractive girl
Where?
Berlin, Germany
What?
"I find you very attractive!"
How did she react?
I don't know...
How did I feel?
This is not my idea. But it is a wonderful one which is why I decided to put it into action! Yesterday someone told me they had received a business card in the UBahn which said, "I find you very attractive. Pass this on to the next person you find attractive."
Immediately I thought, "I want to do that, too!"
Today I found the perfect postcard: Danish artist Per Hillo's painting on the front side, blank on its back.
The anonymous attractive girl
Where?
Berlin, Germany
What?
"I find you very attractive!"
How did she react?
I don't know...
How did I feel?
This is not my idea. But it is a wonderful one which is why I decided to put it into action! Yesterday someone told me they had received a business card in the UBahn which said, "I find you very attractive. Pass this on to the next person you find attractive."
Immediately I thought, "I want to do that, too!"
Today I found the perfect postcard: Danish artist Per Hillo's painting on the front side, blank on its back.
On my way to school I filled the back with these words:
I decided to use the exact same statement because I liked these a lot- and telling a stranger that I find them attractive is still the one compliment that intimidates me most. I thought: Maybe this is a good interim stage on the way to actually and fearlessly telling strangers I am attracted to them.
I looked around in the UBahn. Right before getting off the train I spotted my candidate: She was a super pretty girl, about 15, sitting next to her boyfriend. (The card says, "Pass this on to the next attractive person you see"- I can imagine who she gave it to...)
My stop was announced, I got up and handed her the postcard. She looked surprised and took it. I left. Until then everything was perfect. I would not have done anything differently. Sure, she was not a man; I did not face my fear of telling a male stranger that I am into their appearance, but she was too pretty and radiant to not chose her. She was the next attractive person I saw.
But then, after I hopped off the UBahn, I acted from fear. I did not look back again. I felt insecure- and escaped, instead of maintaining my ground, turning around, smiling and sharing a joyful moment with her.
Part of this project is to wait for the reaction. It is the only way to gain a new experience. I bet she was happy or flattered, but in that moment I was too shy to check. I missed a potentially beautiful moment in favor of- what? Saving myself from embarrassment? Or rejection? Something like that.
My conclusion: The card is nice and I dig the chain reaction it causes if it moves from person to person. In fact, imagining that it might still be somewhere on the U7 changing recipients puts the hugest smile on face. What a great thought! Writing the card was absolutely worth it.
But the actual mouth-to-face compliment holds more of the challenge I am looking for, plus it makes me meet people and potentially hear their stories- a wonderful ingredient to my life. A new, spontaneous experience every day that I don't want to miss. From tomorrow on I will go back to my usual way of complimenting. But for today I am glad I tried something new and learned about my insecurities!
I looked around in the UBahn. Right before getting off the train I spotted my candidate: She was a super pretty girl, about 15, sitting next to her boyfriend. (The card says, "Pass this on to the next attractive person you see"- I can imagine who she gave it to...)
My stop was announced, I got up and handed her the postcard. She looked surprised and took it. I left. Until then everything was perfect. I would not have done anything differently. Sure, she was not a man; I did not face my fear of telling a male stranger that I am into their appearance, but she was too pretty and radiant to not chose her. She was the next attractive person I saw.
But then, after I hopped off the UBahn, I acted from fear. I did not look back again. I felt insecure- and escaped, instead of maintaining my ground, turning around, smiling and sharing a joyful moment with her.
Part of this project is to wait for the reaction. It is the only way to gain a new experience. I bet she was happy or flattered, but in that moment I was too shy to check. I missed a potentially beautiful moment in favor of- what? Saving myself from embarrassment? Or rejection? Something like that.
My conclusion: The card is nice and I dig the chain reaction it causes if it moves from person to person. In fact, imagining that it might still be somewhere on the U7 changing recipients puts the hugest smile on face. What a great thought! Writing the card was absolutely worth it.
But the actual mouth-to-face compliment holds more of the challenge I am looking for, plus it makes me meet people and potentially hear their stories- a wonderful ingredient to my life. A new, spontaneous experience every day that I don't want to miss. From tomorrow on I will go back to my usual way of complimenting. But for today I am glad I tried something new and learned about my insecurities!
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