Who?
Valentin
Where?
Cologne, Germany
What?
"Your hair looks like it's the fluffiest thing on the planet!"
How did he react?
Super open:
"Wow, thank you! Do you wanna feel it?"
"Sure!... Incredible. You are like a cat!"
"But yours looks super soft, too!"
"Wanna touch?"
"Absolutely! ... Uh-huh! Your hair exceeds mine... And I love your rain coat! And your project!"
How did I feel?
So far every compliment has been a bright window lighting my day. They always make me smile. Some come with tons of food for thought, some just with a snack. Some turn into an hour long conversation, some last thirty seconds. And some candidates are interesting and I appreciate them- while others and I really click.
Valentin was the latter. He was likeable all through and I would love to make friends with him.
I caught him crossing the street with his friend Birthe.
Their look was candid and so was the whole encounter: Five happy minutes.
And, wow, by telling Valentin this one thing- that I liked his hair- I stepped into a compliment rain! They kept telling me they liked my project and asked some smart questions. We ended up brainstorming about different kinds of compliments and concreting the pity compliment.
Such a great vibe! Thanks, Valentin and Birthe, I hope you got home safely.
Valentin
Where?
Cologne, Germany
What?
"Your hair looks like it's the fluffiest thing on the planet!"
How did he react?
Super open:
"Wow, thank you! Do you wanna feel it?"
"Sure!... Incredible. You are like a cat!"
"But yours looks super soft, too!"
"Wanna touch?"
"Absolutely! ... Uh-huh! Your hair exceeds mine... And I love your rain coat! And your project!"
How did I feel?
So far every compliment has been a bright window lighting my day. They always make me smile. Some come with tons of food for thought, some just with a snack. Some turn into an hour long conversation, some last thirty seconds. And some candidates are interesting and I appreciate them- while others and I really click.
Valentin was the latter. He was likeable all through and I would love to make friends with him.
I caught him crossing the street with his friend Birthe.
Their look was candid and so was the whole encounter: Five happy minutes.
And, wow, by telling Valentin this one thing- that I liked his hair- I stepped into a compliment rain! They kept telling me they liked my project and asked some smart questions. We ended up brainstorming about different kinds of compliments and concreting the pity compliment.
Such a great vibe! Thanks, Valentin and Birthe, I hope you got home safely.