San Francisco, California
"I want to tell you something."
"I hope you take this the right way. Because I mean it in the best way possible."
"Haha, I know what's to come now! Something that sounds alright and is actually insulting!"
"No, no! No way! I mean- I guess it would be an insult to some people-but I am confident it won't be to you because your horizon is not as narrow as those guys'..."
"Cool! So the other day I saw you walk off in your boots, pushing your pelvis to the front and shaking your legs. That was when I realized you are a total cowboy! Kaboom. Then I started thinking. Because obviously you are not just a cowboy. So finally I came up with a list of things you are to me:
1. A cowboy, I said that.
2. A graceful, beautiful woman. It's not just your long hair. It's how you pull it back, your female gestures and your way of moving when you are not the cowboy. I have seen you walk through a room but really what you did was dancing Flamenco- that's what I observed at least... You could teach many girls a lesson on elegance.
3. A teddy bear. I love when you come out of nowhere and wrap your arm around me. I enjoy physicality so much and I wish more people communicated their longing for touch outside of the bedroom. Especially Germans have such clear rules when comes to touch: Sometimes I just want a hug but that is something you do not ask anyone but your partner, family or best friends for in Germany... It makes me feel lonely every now and then. So thank you for being the teddy bear you are."
How did he react?
"Ha, I love that! I'll take that, all of it! Thank you."
-- we hugged. Of course.
How did I feel?
Awesome! Chris is a unique guy: A photographer who you will find writing gangsta rap lyrics in the hallway, arguing politics over dinner or enjoying some cottage cheese while reminiscing about back in the mid west days...
He is present. And very straight and clear. He goes his way yet takes time to listen. Choosing his words with deliberation he is down for discussing personal love, homelessness, social justice or helping with boy drama. His jokes are sharp and they come quick. Hanging out with Chris is a blast, I recall my laughing muscles hurting bad after a few minutes with him. Celebrating a creative allnighter with him works perfect, too: He is focused on his work yet always open for a little sharing on the side: "Have you seen that video...? Which word works better than...? What do you think about...?"
Chris is one of those people who let warmth pour out of their eyes between two winks. Playfulness and honest caring plus sarcasm at it's best turn spending time with this lady cowboy teddy bear into lively, sunny minutes. Always!
I didn't take a picture of him and didn't dare steal one from his facebook so I drew him. That's why...